Thursday, October 24, 2013

Sleepless nights and weird dreams

On Monday the 28th we are leaving Sweden for a little over two weeks for a trip to the US. A stop in the Chicago area to visit my family but primarily to see my 91-year-old father who is in a care facility suffering from dementia, as I have mentioned briefly in a previous post. Then we are off to Fort Lauderdale to see friends and head out on a cruise.

As much as I am looking forward to the second part, I am unsure about the first part. my siblings have been arguing about Dad's care and some of them are not even speaking to each other. It's been almost 20 months since I saw my father last, and and I know that occasionally he does not recognize my sisters who are around him frequently. I fully expect him to not recognize me but it still makes me feel weird. Almost like I am walking into something foggy, grey and not at all familiar.

This has resulted in short nights of sleep, waking up and not being able to go back to sleep and weird dreams about loss, death and sadness. I get it is all related, logically I see the dotted lines and connections but it's still unfamiliar to me.

All of that is running tandem with some other stuff that is equally as stressful, and yes I am intentionally being vague right now but I just can't really talk about it yet. Nothing horrible, just stressful. I'm just looking forward to getting to the end of next week and maybe, finally relaxing a bit.


  1. I am sorry to read your father's poor health. It is understandable that it is affecting your mood and sleep. There will always be drama with family, but I hope the trip will be good overall. Since your visits to see your father are infrequent, due to you living overseas, I do hope he recognizes you. I hope you both have a safe trip. HUGS!

  2. I understand your feeling Jay. My father had alzheimers disease and it was very stressful for my sister and I. It's a rough road. Try to look forward to the latter part of your trip.